I had my vehicle checked out and it seems that the jumping out of first problem is a simple one to fix. The selector plate wears away slightly and as a result does not put the gearbox fully into 1st gear. Some wear on the fork can also contribute. Should only have been about 2 or 3k to fix.
Unfortunately I have now discovered that my dual mass flywheel and clutch has also gone

This does not seem like a cheap fix. Does anyone know of a place to get cheaper spares or perhaps verify that the 2.8 Diesel clutch and flywheel assembly will work with no modification? Any suggestions would be welcome too.